A New Documentary by Roger Nygard
Why does Marriage have to be so difficult? “I am obsessed with this question,” says filmmaker Roger Nygard. “When I obsess on a topic, I don’t let go until I have a movie about it. I like to interrogate people about impossible ideas, and because it’s on camera, they don’t charge me. It’s like free therapy.”
Three very different couples were filmed at their weddings, then profiled many years later to see what happened after the honeymoon stage was long over. A Malibu screenwriter marries a much younger bride imported from Prague — over the years their roles reverse. A couple in Eugene, Oregon marries after agreeing they will continue dating others after the wedding. An American rapper living and performing in Rio de Janeiro, Brazil vows to be single forever — six years later he is married with a four-year-old daughter. Their stories are full of twists, surprising lessons learned, and advice for others facing relationship problems.
We all know the problems and the statistics: marriage rates are down, divorce rates are up, and over time people become more and more unsatisfied in their marriages. Never in human history have human beings expected so much from romantic partners. Monogamy is the rule, but humans are constantly violating it. Is love a spiritual thing or is it all chemicals? Why are men and women are attracted to very different things? Couples admit there is a big drop in sex after marriage, so how can they keep the passion fresh? What are the secrets that lead to happy relationships? Nygard tracked down the experts — and some extraordinary regular folks — to find all the answers to these questions.
Among those interviewed are:
Dr. Pat Allen, Therapist & Educator, Author, Getting To ‘I Do’
Robin Baker, Ph.D., Ph.D., Sexual Biology Researcher, Author, Sperm Wars
Rabbi Lazer Brody, Relationship Guide, Translator of, The Garden of Emuna
Stephanie Coontz, Author, Marriage, A History: How Love Conquered Marriage
Fara Dabhoiwala, Ph.D., Senior Research Scholar, Princeton University, Author, The Origins of Sex
William J. Doherty, Ph.D., Couples Therapist, Author, Take Back Your Marriage
John Gottman, Ph.D., Co-founder of The Gottman Institute, Author, Why Marriages Succeed or Fail
Julie Schwartz Gottman, Ph.D., Co-founder of the Gottman Institute; Author, 10 Lessons to Transform Your Marriage
Matt Ridley, Author, The Red Queen: Sex and the Evolution of Human Nature
Christopher Ryan, Ph.D., Psychologist, Co-Author, Sex At Dawn
Neil Strauss, Author, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists
Ty Tashiro, Ph.D., Psychologist, Author of, The Science of Happily Ever After
Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, Couples Therapist, Author, Make Up, Don’t Break Up
Roger Nygard has made several indie films, and worked in television as a director and editor on shows like THE OFFICE, CURB YOUR ENTHUSIASM, and VEEP. But he is probably most notorious for having made the documentary, TREKKIES.
Nygard’s prior documentary was about the very nature of existence, or: what’s the point of everything? THE NATURE OF EXISTENCE, was an official selection of twenty film festivals, won multiple best documentary awards, and was released theatrically in 15 U.S. cities. Afterward, Nygard looked for a new topic, something even more inexplicable than existence itself, and only one topic fit that challenge: marriage.
This new film is a humorous and uplifting journey, presenting some of the most challenging ideas about relationships and marriage.