A New Documentary by Roger Nygard
Why do the majority of marriages fail, and why the rest are such hard work? “I am obsessed with this question,” says filmmaker Roger Nygard. “When I obsess on a topic, I don’t quit until I have a movie about it. I like to interrogate people about impossible ideas, and because it’s on camera, they don’t charge me. It’s almost like free therapy.”
We all know the statistics. Marriage rates are down, divorce rates are up, and over time people become more and more unsatisfied in their marriages. Nearly 100% of the people in the world are facing, or will face, this problem. How can we find more happiness in our relationships and marriage? That’s what this new movie is about. Answers!
Never in human history have human beings expected so much from their romantic partners. Why and when did this change? If monogamy is the rule, why are we constantly violating it? If we were truly monogamous, wouldn’t we only marry the first person we date in high school? Is love a spiritual thing or is it all chemicals? Is it a delusion? Is it mystical? Men and women are attracted to very different things in a mate. How do we deal with those differences? Who’s really the in charge in a relationship? People say they want honesty, but do they really? Everybody admits there is a BIG drop in sex after marriage. How do people deal with this inevitability? How can a couple keep the passion fresh? What are the secrets that lead to a long and happy relationship?
Roger Nygard tracked down the experts — and some extraordinary regular folks — to find all the answers to these questions. Among those interviewed are:
Dr. Pat Allen, Therapist & Educator, Author, Getting To ‘I Do’
Robin Baker, Ph.D., Ph.D., Sexual Biology Researcher, Author, Sperm Wars
Rabbi Lazer Brody, Relationship Guide, Translator of, The Garden of Emuna
Stephanie Coontz, Author, Marriage, A History: How Love Conquered Marriage
Fara Dabhoiwala, Ph.D., Senior Research Scholar, Princeton University, Author, The Origins of Sex
William J. Doherty, Ph.D., Couples Therapist, Author, Take Back Your Marriage
John Gottman, Ph.D., Co-founder of The Gottman Institute, Author, Why Marriages Succeed or Fail
Julie Schwartz Gottman, Ph.D., Co-founder of the Gottman Institute; Author, 10 Lessons to Transform Your Marriage
Matt Ridley, Author, The Red Queen: Sex and the Evolution of Human Nature
Christopher Ryan, Ph.D., Psychologist, Co-Author, Sex At Dawn
Neil Strauss, Author, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists
Ty Tashiro, Ph.D., Psychologist, Author of, The Science of Happily Ever After
Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, Couples Therapist, Author, Make Up, Don’t Break Up
Roger Nygard has made several indie films, and worked in television as a director and editor on shows like THE OFFICE, CURB YOUR ENTHUSIASM, and VEEP. But he is probably most notorious for having made the documentary, TREKKIES.
Nygard’s prior documentary was about the very nature of existence, or: what’s the point of everything? THE NATURE OF EXISTENCE, was an official selection of twenty film festivals, won multiple best documentary awards, and was released theatrically in 15 U.S. cities. Afterward, Nygard looked for a new topic, something even more inexplicable than existence itself, and only one topic fit that challenge: marriage.
This film is a humorous and uplifting journey, presenting some of the most challenging ideas about relationships and marriage you will ever see.